Author: Becca Teers

Mindset Matters

With all the uncertainty at the moment it’s important that we have ways to keep us positive. Self-care is something that we can all do for ourselves to take care of our mental health & keep us as calm & happy as possible. Here are two of my favourite effective, yet simple self-care tools to use daily to keep positive. Gratitude Practicing feeling grateful for what you have puts the focus on the positive things in your life, rather than what you don’t have or are lacking. We know that what we focus on we get more of as like attracts like. So, to get more of what you want in your life, you have to focus on the good things you already have and be thankful for them. This will attract more similar good things to you by training your mind to notice the good stuff around you. Each day think of between 5 and 10 things that you are grateful for and record them in a notebook, which you can label your Gratitude …

Cure Procrastination! A Great Technique Using Swiss Cheese!

Procrastination is the habit of putting off what should be done today until tomorrow, or the next day, or week, or month… and so on. This affects us all from time to time. There are a few reasons why we procrastinate but the main one is fear: Fear of rejection, fear of change, fear of failure, and also perfectionism can cause procrastination. These are natural fears but the idea is to acknowledge them, but act in spite of them! Sometimes procrastination is the result of feeling that something is just too big and scary to even begin! The thing is that once you have begun, the task is probably a lot more enjoyable & doable than you thought. Here is a great technique that you can use to overcome procrastination & get into action! The Swiss Cheese Method Alan Lakein, author of an amazing little book: “How to Get Control of Your Time & Your Life” advises that if a task is overwhelming you, poke holes in it like Swiss cheese. The holes represent small …

Ways to Overcome Fear of Change!

Coming out of lockdown and embracing the ‘new normal’ is bringing up real fears & anxieties. There is a fear of catching the virus, as many more people are venturing out again, using public transport, shopping etc. For those that suffer with social anxiety it’s the social aspect of coming out of lockdown. For people who are more introverted or are not naturally at ease around others, being at home has been a welcome relief. All of the normal everyday pressures of life and having to interact and mix with others have been avoided.  Understandably people are also nervous about having to work in a different way and there are some real fears about job security. Here Are Some Mindset Tips for Coping with Change; 1) You’ve survived change before! Remember that you’ve dealt with change before and you will do it again! Make a note of all of the times that changes have happened in your life up to now. Realise that you dealt with these changes and maybe even thrived afterwards. Maybe you …

How to Deal with Your Emotions and Stay Calm and Positive

It’s human nature to not want to feel pain (emotional or physical pain) and this is why we often prefer to ‘bottle up’ negative emotions rather than feeling them and expressing them. Another aspect of this is that many of us have grown up without being shown how to express our emotions in a healthy way and so we can become afraid of them. We’re scared of a bad reaction or confrontation when we do say how we feel. We may also have learnt to believe certain emotions are ‘wrong’, such as anger, fear, dissapointment, sadness or jelousy. The truth is these emotions are natural and normal and they just need acknowledging (even just to yourself) to become ‘unstuck’, allowing you to release them and feel better. What happens to suppressed emotions? We push our feelings down but by doing this they don’t go away. They sit beneath the surface and can affect us negatively in different ways. Our emotions are held in the subconscious part of the mind: the part that is not under …

Top Tips to Avoid Meltdown During Lockdown!

As social distancing becomes our normality, by the time you’re reading this we will probably all be at home for a while, until the risks of contracting and spreading the Corona virus are past.  During this difficult and uncertain time fear and anxiety about what’s going on can feel overwhelming. Also being stuck at home can bring additional challenges such as creating a suitable environment and boundaries for home schooling and working at home plus testing the strength of relationships to the max! These are my top tips for staying as calm and positive as we can.  Whilst we are restricted from going out there are many things we can do at home to make ourselves feel better and raise our spirits. 1)Daily Structure- Whilst the current situation is anything but normal for us, try to create a bit of normality by sticking to a routine during the day (at least for Monday- Friday). Set your alarm, get up at your normal time, make your bed and whilst the temptation may be to stay in …